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Estranging Attachment from Love


Estranging Attachment from Love

 Bon Ami Laishram

 

Love is the byproduct of emotional feelings and emotional feelings are the results of attachment and care. Attachment and care can be together in a single pool or there can be the presence of one of elements in the pool and vice versa. Love can be born even without the attachment. The eternal caring is the significant or the sole element to give rise to love for the concern opposite person as this category of love is that love exists in the relationship between two lovers, spouses. Attachment is the additional element that drive person into the world of fantasy ; dark fantasy probably.

Love is always healthy and unconditional when its born with the sense or feeling of eternal care. Its all about caring for the love one unconditionally without expecting any form of return from the love one. There is less interference of expectation which is the primary reason behind the formation of instability in the relationships. Its all about giving and presenting with no expectation of takeaway. This side defines love precisely. If something is given out with no expectation of return, then that’s love and if something is given out with an expectation of return, then that’s investment. The pain of losing investment in business is well award to every sensual being.

Eternal care is not all about sticking to the love one or presenting every goods and items as a part of giving without expecting return. The love one may love some other third party and the person may want to spend time with the another party than you. The another party may be the love interest of the person and the person have no love for your other than the casual friendly love if you are known to the person. All love and affection of your love interest may belong to another person and there may be no room for you. There won’t be a little time for you to interact with your loving person and there would be infinite time for her to interact with the another person. They both may be madly in love with each other and that seems to be inseparable for the rest of their lives. They shall have a very elegant picture and there shall be no room for you any sooner or never. The sense of eternal care which you have for the person you love defines the picture of true love in such situation where there is no light of love. Eternal care is about watching the person from the far off edge like a shadow. You need to distant yourself from the person without losing eye on the person without expecting credibility or prize from the person. The person you love and the another person shall be given enough room and you keep on loving the person with no dilution in mind. You would be the one who would catch the person if the person falls, You would be the one who would fill the life of the person with smile in the phase of anxiety. You would the one who would be the knight of the person when need arises. You would fulfill your duties with sensual mind and true heart without expecting payroll from the person. You won’t face any pain in committing all these soulful duties since you have muted your expectation. These would shape you into one of the greatest lovers in the world. And it’ll be the purest unconditional love ever yielded. There shall be no prize for the world's greatest lover at the end.

Attachment in love is accumulation of unhealthy element in the divine air. Attachment is also another basic element of short term relationship where the couple finds everything amazing between them at the initial stage and then ends disastrously later. Attachment would be taken as love by some individuals of all ages because of the initial impact of attachment on them  such as evolution of dialogue like “I can live without you by my side” , “ Walk me till our last step” , “Life without you is meaningless” and so on. It’s fine if those individuals limit such statement only till the dialogues. If they really mean those dialogues then, we need to worry a little for such individuals. Individuals of this breed would need real counseling by a trusted mate or a professional psychiatrist. Professional psychiatrist is the better bet for real counseling.

Attachment brings in conditions in the relationships. It creates more rooms for expectation which is a culprit behind chaos and anxiety in the relationships. It develops an ecosystem around you where you would feel suffocation in the absence of your love one. Absence doesn’t primarily mean the short term physical absence. You would take the presence of your love one as oxygen and the abode as the heaven. Otherwise, its hell in the absence of your love one. However, nothing is immortal around. It’s all about the time. Time may poison your love one against you or time may snatch away your love one from the heavenly ecosystem you build crowning your love one as the guardian of the ecosystem. The heavenly ecosystem would  sink to breathless hell in absence of the guardian and oxygen to breath. So, the consequences of attachment are imaginable. Expecting someone to remain attach to you forever is ridiculous. Its considerable if your love one is your nonliving private asset but your love one has a soul and mind which feels and thinks and you can’t exercise complete control on that. Therefore, living together doesn’t define love authentically; living for each other is divine love.  

There is a statutory requirement of  building an ecosystem where you can even breath fresh oxygen in the absence of your love one. Love is life giving and it pushes you forward. The element that bombards the heavenly ecosystem completely is not love. Its the evil force that needs to be fought and defeated.

Memoirs are the token of love and the soul of the person rests in the memoirs which are lively. Memoirs are the elements that keep you going along the legacy and accomplish the goal. Everything around would be lively and divine with the presence of sweet and bittersweet memoirs and it would inspire you to race against the time.

Thus, involving attachment to your divinely love is the process of contamination which would be deadly for the love. Pushing away the smell of attachment and fortifying the ecosystem with eternal care would lead to peaceful divine love story. Attachment can bring some roller coaster experiences in your life but its deadly accident pruned act. Paying off happiness as the price of healing the wound is too expensive.   

 



    


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